First, HI! Sorry for the delay in writing anything. Daddy and I went on a much needed vacation for 2 weeks. Also, there has been some personal stuff that has just had me lost in thought.
Forgiveness… what does it really mean? What does it mean for me and the other person? I have had to really dig into what it means to me and what expectations if any that come with forgiveness from my perspective and maybe another person’s perspective.
Of course, I can’t really know what another person feels about anything unless they tell me; but I can figure out how I feel and what boundaries I have that come with forgiveness. Just because I forgive someone for past actions and behaviors doesn’t mean that I need to give them an all access to my life. People have become so entitled and think that their feelings matter over another person’s and that boundaries don’t have to be followed if they don’t agree with them.
Well, I have reached a point in my life where I am not willing to compromise my feelings just to make another person feel better. I can offer forgiveness and remain civil with someone but I don’t need to give you the same access to me that they used to have. I can forgive and move on but I will not be a doormat for further abuse/neglect/bad behaviors just because I forgave someone.
It’s ok for me to stand up for myself and I don’t need to feel guilty because someone else can’t respect me and my boundaries. I don’t need to just take it all to keep from making waves. I will not sacrifice myself anymore just to keep peace. I will not be mean or cause problems but I will not allow the past to repeat itself anymore.
I took the time to heal and grow and I am not going to go backwards just to keep the peace anymore. I am happy with who I have found and grown into and will not lose that person! I will forgive because I need that for my mental peace and happiness. I will let go of the negative past but I will not allow that to be my future again!
I am working every day at finding my happiness and holding on to old hurt doesn’t help me move forward. Forgiveness, has been a hard one for me in the past because I was expected to forgive and go back to the same ways. I was expected to forgive but also expected to continue and just take the hurt with no change from the other person. I will not do that anymore.
Forgiveness, might mean something different to me than it does to you and that’s ok… great even. We are all unique and our path is our own!
Until Next time,
Pretty in Pink
Pretty in Pink 