“Real Life”… Truly has the ability to get up and create chaos! BUT, it depends on how you choose to handle it that matters. I have a few things I repeat to myself often that help. ” These ARE MY monkeys and this IS MY circus” or ” I really don’t want to… But I will” and then take a deep breath and figure out how to tackle the new problem and move on.
I will admit that I struggle with taking a deep breath and calming myself down before trying to tackle the problem(s). I am working on it. Again, part of my personal journey is admitting my struggles and working through them. But, I am trying every day… Even on the bad ones! Don’t get me wrong… On some bad days it can feel like the world is caving in and coming after me BUT if I can complete one or two tasks/chores/self care items then it doesn’t feel like a lost day.
So, lately “real life” has gotten in the way of our “fun” life. I put quotations around those because we are 24/7 so “real life” is subjective. We always work with the time that we do have and go from there. Right now, life has taken center stage and so our fun stuff is more back burner and things are a little vanilla and that is OK.
We aren’t failing at anything just because kink isn’t at the the forefront right now. We are still Dom/sub. He is still my Daddy. Nothing has changed with that.
What has changed… we haven’t been able to have any play sessions or scenes lately but we still get to shower together, snuggle, watch movies and more normal everyday things. We still have sex just not as often as we like. We are just tired and worn out.
What that means for us is more verbal check in’s with each other and making sure that neither is feeling neglected or has a need that isn’t being met. Sometimes it seems a little silly to say ” Just checking in and making sure we are all good or see if you need anything.” But taking the time and being able to get things out before they are a porblem has changed so much.
Don’t get me wrong there are so many times that I just want to climb on top of my Daddy and kiss him and touch him and drag him to the bedroom… But I haven’t slept, kids are needy, kids are sick, an emergency happens, Daddy got a work call out, moods change… blah blah blah. Sometimes, I have to pull myself out of it and make sure to ask Daddy for one on one time and I do that to keep me accountable, let Daddy know I want and need his attention and gives me time to get mentally and phyiscally ready. Yes, as much as I love intimate time with my Daddy there are times that as much as my body wants it, I just can’t get my head in the game. For me, saying things out loud to Daddy just works for many reasons.
Take the time. Check in with each other. Check in with yourself. Things happen. Like I always say… You can make this lifestyle what works for you.
Until Next Time,
Pretty in Pink 💕
Pretty in Pink 